SHOULD PARENTS SPANK THEIR CHILDREN?

“Get out of this house; I don’t want to see you anymore!” I’m sorry Mom; it is not my fault!” the little girl burst into tear and slowly got out of that house. And she has been standing in front of her house until now. When I was a child, whenever I make small mistake or do something wrong; my parents spanked me. And now, that punishment is used popularly in many countries not only in developing countries but also in developed countries. But I think it is not an effective method to educate our children and it should not be used anymore.

First, spanking our children can make relationship between parents and their children worse. If children do something wrong, her parents instead of giving them advice how to do it better; they spank them or use some forms of punishment to them. The children will scare and they don’t want to do it again they will just keep silent. Of course, they don’t want to share their feelings and they just want to keep away from their parents in order to avoid punishing. Moreover, they may become stubborn. Sometimes, parents spank their children without suitable reasons. After hard working, they feel stress and they get angry with everything and children. That makes children to be hurt so it is the main reason that create distance between parents and children. Is spanking children good way to educate them? It is completely wrong way; however, more and more people are using it as the normal punishment.

Second, spanking children can also affect to physical and mental development of children. According to National Family Violence Surveys, over 90% of parents use some forms of punishment to children and 39% of all children who are under  2 years old has been spanked at least one every week. Spanking our children can lead to emotional problem in the future because children who are spanked even occasionally are low self-esteem and it can make them lack of confident. They just want to be alone and keep away from everything or they can get angry or upset at another and it makes children more and more violent. Many parents use corporal punishment or they reluctantly spank to force their children follow them. May be parents think that spanking makes their children unforgettable; therefore, their children will not make mistakes again. However, it is a very dangerous method because  they will not realize the mistakes, they don’t care about it and they can repeat it again and again.  On the whole, spanking children is not good way to make them realize what is right or wrong because it may affect to children’s growth.

Parents should sit down next to their children to listen to their aspirations and dreams; show them what they should or should not.Don’t use spanking as the best solution to educate children. It is not the best method to educate their children.